- [average frusterated chump]: a stereotypical nice guy who engages
in sublicative and winpy patterns around women.
- [ approach invitation]: Approach Invitation. Usually a body language
signal, especially eye contact, sent by a Target to you to indicate
the Target wants you to approach. Hovering 5 to 10 feet from you for
no real reason is common -- a Proximity AI. While AI's can be helpful,
waiting for AI's before approaching can be counterproductive.
- [ alpha male of the group] this means a guy-obstacle who is more resistant
to obstacle-handling tactics than most guys. Typically, this means the
guy is displaying Alpha Male -- leader-of-the-pack characteristics.
Although, it is sometimes used to mean any guy distracting the Target
or attempting to DHV by the way he treats you. The term can also mean
that you distract the girl from a guy she just met that night; or a
longer-term acquantance; or keep the Target's attention away from a
guy who tries to distract you from her.
- An application of stimulus-response conditioning. 1) To Set an Anchor,
create an emotional state in a person and provide a Unique stimulus.
2) To Trigger an Anchor, provide the Unique stimulus, and the emotional
state will be produced in that person. Emotional states can be created
through story telling or the Revivification of memories. Stimuli can
be a touch of an area of the body that is rarely touched, or facial
gesture, or making a unique sound, or sometimes a unique smell, etc.
In general, telling a story will automatically anchor the emotions evoked
to the story-teller; but this is sometimes weak. [Origin: Richard Bandler]
See: NLP, Revivification.
- [anti slut defense]: the maneuvers some women make to avoid taking
reponsibility for initiating or agreeing to sex; or in order to avoid
appearing slutty to the man she is with, to her friends, to society,
or to herself. This can occure before or after sex, or it can prevent
sex from occuring. [Origin: Yaritai]
- [boyfriend destroyer]: a pattern, routine, or line a pickup artist
uses with the intention of seducing a womean who has a boyfriend.
- a woman's defensive response to deter unknown men whp approach her.
Though her reaction to an opening line may be rude, this does not necessarily
mean the woman herself is rude, or even impossible to engage in a conversation.
- an occurance in which a woman stops returning calls, although she
was initially interested in the man phonong.
- the degree to which a woman is ready to make intimate physical contact
with a man. Unlike attraction, a high buying temperature generally appears
and fades quickly. To maintain a woman's level of physical interest
over a longer period of time, a pickup artist attempts to pump her buying
temperature with fast-paced routines. [Origins:Tyler Durden]
- to read the verbal and nonverbal responses of a person or group and
accurately deduce what they are thinking or feeling at the moment. [Origin:
Richard Bandler and John Grinder]
- A routine, pattern, story, etc. that has been memorized through repetition.
Especially useful for the beginner PUA, it takes pressure off of thinking
up something "good" to say. To "can" material, you
must do it live in sets, 10 times, according to Mystery. [Origin: Mystery]
- To directly and aggressively escalate physical contact, and progress
toward sex with consenting women.
and Routines that usually involve Cold Reading that offer psychological
or psychic insights into the Target's fate and real self (not the face
she hides behind during day-to-day life). [Origin: Tyler Durden]
- Author of Influence. Cialdini's 6 core principles of Influence: 1)
Commitment and Consistency: Once you commit yourself to a position,
you have a tendency to behave consistent with the position. 2) Liking:
We obey those we like. 3) Reciprocity: When someone gives you something,
you want to give something back -- EVEN IF YOU DON'T LIKE THEM!!! 4)
Scarcity: When something is rare, you want it more. 5) Authority: We
obey those we perceive to have authority. 6) Social Proof: We look to
the crowd to tell us how to behave or treat a person, idea, thing, etc.;
especially when we are in unfamiliar territory.
- A person who interferes with a pickup artist's game, whther accidently
or on purpose.
CF, C/F -
[Cocky & Funny]: Referring to the Cocky & Funny techniques taught
by David DeAngelo's Double Your Dating.
To make statements that appear to be true of the other person, that
seem to be too specific to be mere guessing. May include prediction
of future events. Often attributed to psychic powers, or psychological
expertise. See: Superstition, Chick Crack,
AND BURN -
to be directly, and often rudely, rejected or turned away by a woman
or group one has just approached.
TWO - When
you meet the Target at another time, after the initial sarge. Alternative
to "Date" and all of it's negative connotations. Also:
- [demonstration of higher value]: According to Mystery this means:
1) Being a Leader of Men or 2) Being Pre-Selected by Women. This can
be done through stories, live demonstrations on the Target, the Target's
Set, or a pawned Set, etc; and must not look like bragging-with-intent
to impress the target. [Origin: Mystery] See: Pre-Selection, Target,
- An indirect
element, a softener, that tells the Target that you are not available.
This gives you time to DHV without looking like you are hitting on her.
You may need an antidote to the disqualifier when you get to A3. See:
Mystery Method. [Origin: Style]
DINNER BOWL LOOK
- The entranced expression a woman gets in her eyes when she is attracted
to a man who is talking to her. Also: DDB. [Origin: Ross Jeffries]
VALUES - to
draw out, through conversation, what is importantto a person, usually
with the intention of reaching a deep inner desire that motivates them.
VALUES - ower
- see time constraint
- [fuck buddy]: a women who a man engages in casual sex, absent of emothional
- The public place where sarging occurs
REPORT - A
written account of a Pua's ventures. It is usually posted online.
- Asituation where a women cancels or does not show up at a designated
- Typical small talk between two people.
- [field, meet, attract, close]:. The basis of Mystery's method (and
pretty much all PU styles).
- The context in which a person, place, or thing is perceived. [Origin:
Richard Bandler and John Grinder]
OUT - To ignore
a women in order to have her seek validation from you.
CLOSE - Sexual
- A semi-neologism (original meaning is a very large number) for a constructed
state (of mind) that is highly conducive to sarging. This state is different
for different people but in general can include: certainty, uninsultability,
playfullness, cockiness, compassion, joking, outgoing, etc. [Origin:
THEORY - The
idea that woman are found in groups, and to win that woman her friends
in the group must be won over.
- [hot babe]
GUNS - Females
in the service industry that are usually recruited for their good looks,
such as strippers, waitresses, etc.
POINT - The
point where the Pua company is enjoyed by the group and that group does
not want the Pua to leave.
DATE - To
take a recently met girl from one venue to another such as from a bar
to dinner. [Origin: Mystery]
- [indicator of disinterest]: Anything that indicates disinterest. Either
to or from the Target. This can mean anything from talking to another
person in the set while ignoring the Target, to Negs told to others
in the set about the Target -- or directly to the Target so that the
Target's set thinks you are not hitting on her. Or the Target may look
away from you with a look of boredom, or just ignore you are sitting
right next to her. See: Neg
- [indicator of interest] Anything that indicates interest. An IOI can
be sent from you to the Target, or from the Target to you. Body language
signals, eye contact, the Target asking you questions ("Are you
single?", "Are you gay?", "What do you do?"),
etc. are examples of IOI's. [Origin: Mystery]
- [interactive value demonstration]: A type of DHV where you play a
game where you win and the Target loses; or where you interact with
her in a way that shows you know more about her real self than she does
(Speed Seduction "be an authority on her world"). This can
be anything from thumb wars to bar bets to elicitation of core values.
[Origin: Style] See: EV, Speed Seduction, Chick Crack
- [from kinesthesia]: Touching, Usually with the Target
- To kiss with a person.
- [let's just be friends]: A slammer statement uttered by women that
essentially closes the door on any chance of you ever sleeping with
- [last minute resistance]: This usually happens when she is almost
naked and resists having sex. She does not want to be seen as a slut
who sleeps with guys on the "X"th date. "Will you respect
me in the morning?" is the stereotypical question she is implicitly
asking. See: Negation, Riker's 3 Rules, Freeze Out
- [low self-esteem]: A girl whose insecurity causes her to engage in
self-effacing behavior. [Origin: MrSex4uNYC]
- [long-term relationship]: a girlfriend.
- To let the woman know before sleeping with her the state of the intended
relationship as to not raise expectations.
- [multiple long-term relationship]: a women that is part of a harem.
method]: A seduction system created by Mystery (Erik Von Markovic).
It involves 3 Main Phases, each with 3 steps. Attract: A1, A2, A3; Comfort:
C1, C2, C3; Seduction: S1, S2, S3. A1: Open, say something. A2: F2M,
female to male attraction; use DHV to get her attracted. A3: M2F, male
to female attraction, make her Qualify to your standards, make her feel
that you want her for more than her looks. C1: Connection, at pickup
location. C2: Trust, at comfort-building location. C3: Intimacy, at
seduction location. S1: Arousal. S2: LMR. S3: Sex. The steps are not
always linear and take 7 hours of interaction (over 1 or more meetings)
according to Mystery. See: Open, DHV, LMR, Qualifying
- To mimick the behavior of another person. [Origin: Richard Bandler
and John Grinder]
- [male pattern blindness]: The inability for a man to recognize a woman
is attracted to him during the time they meet.
- [master pick-up artist]: Top 1% of pick-up artists.
- A form of IOD intended to knock the Target off of her Pedestal, at
the same time Not Conveying Interest. Mystery changed the term from
"Neg Hit" to "Neg" to make it less negative. It
is the opposite of a compliment, but does-not-appear to be intended
as an insult. [Origin: Mystery]
An activity meant to help shy men to overcome approach anxiety.
- [neuro-linguistic programming]: While this could be a long entry,
the important thing to know is that NLP refers to a type of covert hypnosis.
The Brain (neuro) responds to words (linguistic) at an unconscious level;
and works in sequences (programming). So if I were to write about the
Eiffel tower, you probably have an automatic picture of what I'm talking
about, and there was no way to prevent that image popping into your
mind, without warning. [Origin: Richard Bandler] See: Pattern
- A conversation where one person is not actively listening to the other.
CLOSE - To
get a phone number from a person.
- The girls and guys who distract the Target or otherwise block you
from interacting and seducing the Target. They may come from inside
or outside the set. While they do get in the way, this term masks the
ability to DHV to the Target by interacting with the Obstacle; for example,
Tyler Durden has said that it's easier to PU a SHB with her BF (than
without) because you can DHV by the way you treat him. [Origin: Common
Term] [Syn. CockBlock, Anchor (not to be confused with the NLP Anchor)]
See: Target, Set
- A disorder commonly found in AFCs, that forces them to think that
one chick is so special that they'll do ANYTHING to get into her panties.
The most common cure for this disease is to go out and fuck a Baker's
Dozen of other chicks to see that one piece isn't that special.
- Statements used to initiate conversation with a person.
- see AMOG
[ore-approach invitation, male approach]: A semi-passive action or series
of actions meant to inducement a chick to initiate an AI. A means to
"pre-condition" a chick to initiate some form of non-verbal
IOI before actually approaching her or doing an opener, usually the
best IOI response to the structure being an AI. Essentially, it's a
conscious male tactic (applied as if it was unconscious) that reverses
the frame of a female unconscious "PU" tactic. 3 levels of
pre-approach: 1.) No AI, walk into a room full of 100 chicks, randomly
approach 10, randomly get 1 or 2 interested, perhaps not your best choice
of chicks overall, but still better than 0. 2.) AI observation, walk
into a room, observe the 10-20 chicks giving you AI, pick the 5 that
interest you, spend half the time interacting with half as many chicks
who've shown already shown interest (2 * 2 * 2 = 8x efficiency, with
increased chick quality). And, with the more positive interactions,
social proof for the other 95 chicks is enhanced, providing a method
of roughly 10x better results. 3.) pAImAI+AI, walk into a room of 100
chicks, vibe intent everywhere and make presence known, observe chicks
selectively (like a calm hunter), and cause 30 chicks to display clear
IOIs or initiate significant AIs, approach the few (2-3) that REALLY
interest you, knowing they are already highly interested, and that you've
already displayed intent (10x AI efficiency * 1.5chicks * 2x interest
= 30x efficiency, with MUCH increased chick quality).
- A pattern is a sequence of NLP steps that may involve such things
as Anchoring, Visualizations, and Revivifications; Intended to take
the Target from their current state (of mind) or attitude to a more
useful state or attitude (in this context: for seduction). See: NLP,
Anchor, Visualization, Target.
- An unexpected statement designed to stop conversation.
- Enhanced social proof. A PAWN can be any woman in any situation, doesn't
have to be a friend or acquaintance of yours, and can be created on-the-fly.
On-the-fly PAWNs are best for building up social proof literally out
of thin air, snowballing into more PAWN opportunities and further enhancing
your status in the eyes of any potential targets (even ones you have
not seen yet). PAWNS can be unwitting participants or completely willing
to help your game. [Origin: Mystery]
- to dres in a loud, outrageous manner in order to attract women's attention.
-To make a transition during a one on one conversation with a girl to
a more slow, deeper, sexually charged talk; intended to preceed a kiss.
- A woman (LJBF material or one of your MLTRs) who you can use as social
proof when out on PU session. Used to enhance your status in the eyes
of any potential targets (even ones you have not seen yet).
- Realizing that a group of women are awkwardy close in hopes to be
approached. Usually they have backs turn as to seem nearby by accident.
To Pick Up a girl, to attract, seduce, get her phone number, etc.
artist]: A guy who seduces girls he doesn't know. While there is artistry
involved, this term masks the "field-tested" science that
may also be involved. [Origin: Common Term]
- Giving indications of interest followed by indications of disinterest
to a girl in order to increase attraction. [Origin: Swingcat]
- To show that you meet someone's explicitly or presupposedly stated
standards. In general, qualifying is AFC behavior. You want the Target
to Qualify to you; and avoid Qualifying to the target. Often the Target
will attempt to get you to qualify to her through tests. DHV is not
seen as qualifying because she has not thrown out a test. However, if
for example she were to say that she's not sure if you're adventurous
enough; and you respond with a personal adventure story, then you are
qualifying to her, not DHVing. See: DHV, IVD, Supplication, AFC
- [reformed average frusterated chump] - Recovering Average Frustrated
Chump. A guy who realizes consciously that he is an AFC and is taking
the steps to correct the situation. A lot of guys have chosen to deprecate
this acronym in favor of GPUA (Green PUA), which is much more positive.
In that regard, a guy is only RAFC for the moment he realizes his AFCness
and chooses the path to PUAdom. Once choosing that path, he becomes
a GPUA. Some guys make use of a small "r" in rAFC to denote
that their recovery from AFCdom is still being worked on. So, if you
can follow this logic, the levels of skill, in order of precedence is:
WBAFC, BAFC, AFC, rAFC, RAFC, GPUA, PUA, PUM, PUG (although PUM and
PUG are rarely used). Most guys in the western hemisphere are AFC.
- To change the context in which a person sees a person, place, or thing.
[Origin: Richard Bandler and John Grinder]
(and field tested) material used to initiate, maintain, and advance
interaction with a woman.
- [Real Social Dynamics]
- To go out and interact with women with the overarching intent of seducing
them, or practicing seduction skills. A metaphor of cat-like exploration
and playfullness with its cat toys and environment. [Origin: Ross Jeffries'
cat, Sargy, who reportedly has feline aids]
- Like an alcoholic, except addicted to wanting to meet, pick-up, and
a first date. Also: day two
POINT - Discreetly
pointing to oneself while talking about a characteristic, feeling, or
positive topic. Use of NLP visual anchoring. [Origin: Ross Jeffries]
- A group of people, usually all girls if not a Mixed Set. Mixed Set:
A group with at least one guy and one girl in it. [Origin: Common Term]
[Note: I personally use numbers, for example: "2-3 set" to
refer to a set of 2 girls and 3 guys.]
- [super hot babe]: an extremely attractive woman.
TEST - When
a chick does or says something which is meant to judge the reaction
or response from a male, whether the test is done consciously or unconsciously.
The specific words of the response are less meaningful than the method
and mode (attitude) of the response.
NEG - A Neg
designed to insult target while entertaining the group.
NEG - A Neg
designed to embarrass a women during a one-on-one talk.
PROOF - The
concept that when you are seen with other women (or keeping a crowd
entertained) your social status is raised in the eyes of HBs in the
near vicinity. Other forms of display can be seen as social proof (chummy
with everyone at a certain place, at ease in your environment, etc.)
- [Statement of Disinterest]
- [Statement of Intent/Interest]: A verbal statement of intimate interest
or intent; to or from the Target. [Origin: Rio]
- [signal recognistion technology]: A type of strategy elicitation,
especially strategies conducive to a seductive state of mind in the
Target. [Origin: Ross Jeffries]
- [speed seduction]: A seduction system created by Ross Jeffries. The
core concepts are: "capture and lead the imagination and feelings"
of the Target; be an authority on the Target's world; and create a productive
"google" state (of mind) in yourself first. This is done primarity
through patterns, stories, poems, etc. See: NLP, Pattern, Google
- All available sets have been approaced in a venue.
- Non-verbal communication
- To place
one in an inferior position in order to please a woman.
- A pickup technique in which a man who had approach and getting along,
leaves in order to demostrate lack of neediness and increase her attraction
- The girl you have selected to seduce. [Origin: Common Term] See: Obstacle
RULE - A guidelin
stating that a woman or set should be approach within 3 seconds of initially
seeing her. This is to prevent 1) nervousness and 2) the girl from perceiving
the man as a creep by him staring to long at her. [Origin: Mystery]
- To inform a set that you have to leave soon. This lowers a woman anxiety
about being approached as the approacher will leave soon. [Origin: Style]
- A Pu technique that causes the woman to think she has known the pua
for longer than she really has.
WORDS - The
words a person uses often to communicate. If a Pua learns these words,
and repeats them to the target, then he can create a stronger bond by
perceived stronger connection with him. [Origin: Richard Bandler and
GAZING - A
suggestive look at a womans lip, then back to her eyes before attempting
- [ugly girl] [Syn. WarPig] See B, HB, SHB.
- [way-below average frusterated chump]
-A guy with whom you go sarging. [Origin: Common Term]
- see pivot. r
LADDER - A
series of questions designed to have the woman say "yes" in
order to have her respond more positively to an intended open-ened question.